It's fun when you return after a lengthy absence, and this is one of the first comments in response:
Wow -- I hate to be a jack ass, but I have checked your blog every day for nearly a month, and this is the best you have to offer? Where is the biting satire, the sharp political commentary -- hell, what happened with the wax-on-your-coat guy? I must confess, FAF, I do not blog myself so I know not the pressures and strain of writer's block but, babe, really -- this post was NOT what your legion of followers was waiting for... Sorry to be such an unappreciative bitch...
Oh no, wait -- it's not any fun at all.
Thankfully, others of you are more appreciative.
Still, I fear my reappearance makes a promise I cannot keep.
When I first launched this blog, it was a fun side project -- great for those years I was a student who needed a creative outlet. It was a blast to entertain, to spark discussions, to get on my high horse about politics, pop culture, queer issues and dating.
Oh, and American Idol. There was always plenty of American Idol.
Now, however, it's difficult.
Difficult because I have to work -- and I don't write about work. My social life consists of American Gladiators, and that has yet to reveal itself as a gold mine of material. And I have a huge new project brewing, but it's not yet at the state for a big reveal.
So I decided that unless I say something, I feel I've made a promise I can't keep.
Here goes:
I don't know when, or if, I'll write here again. There's just too much else to concentrate on, and most days I don't have any great ideas about what to post here. It's sad, but that's where I'm at.
Now about that other project: I hope to be ready to announce it soon, and I hope you'll follow me to that new destination. I can assure you I'll be doing plenty of writing there.
In the meantime -- thanks for tuning in, be well, and be sure to check back here in the next few weeks to find out the F-AF's next step.
I hope you'll like what's coming.
Wow! I guess I never imagined my snarky comments would be enough to send F-AF into some sort of downward shame spiral. I was hoping to merely register (what I thought to be) a witty, if bitchy, post that might help "jumpstart" the old creative process for you again. Apparently, I have almost single-handedly brought down one of the most enjoyable blogs out there. If it's not too late, I would like to publicly apologize in this forum for offending you or hurting your feelings. I suppose, in a way, bloggers must expect some literary paparazzi to "wazz" them when they are exposed... That said, I do extend my "virtual hand" and hope you will accept my apology. Good luck on your new undertaking.
Posted by: Tim | January 22, 2008 02:08 PMTake a sabbatical and come back when you're good and ready. Blogging ain't easy, baby.
I'm totally ready to throw in the blogging towel for a spell and consider hibernation... except I just don't think I'm up for sleeping in a hollowed out tree, let alone not showering or brushing my teeth until spring... and yikes!... not to mention that whole hibernation weight gain horror!
Dear FAF,
Remember, dear, that any pressure to post on a daily basis comes only from within. If you don't feel like posting everyday, then post when you feel like it. If you don't have anything interesting to say, post when you do. Don't let the expectations of others dictate a creative outlet like blogging.
A long time reader and occasional commenter,
Mark
Posted by: Mark | January 23, 2008 04:13 PMDear Erik,
Back at ya, brother.
Grow up.
Tim
Does this mean no obligatory photo essay on our upcoming trip to the nudie bar?
Posted by: Stan | January 25, 2008 06:57 AMEverybody goes through seasons. I've left my blog for weeks at a time, and when I least expect it I'll get inspired by something unlikely. And even if FAF has posted for the last time (and I certainly hope that's not the case) it was excellent while it lasted. And, anyway, this dreary time of year sort of wears a guy down, don't you think?
Posted by: Kevin | January 25, 2008 09:27 AMI knew this was coming as soon as you picked "Benjamin" as your second name. And, I, for one, will be checking back for info on your next project. If that post never happens, then thank you for entertaining me up to this point and I sincerely wish the best for you in your future endeavors.
And Tim, don't feel too bad. At least your post prompted some long-time coming info out of our beloved blogger.
Posted by: Blame "It" on the Bosa Nova | January 26, 2008 04:48 PMAs one of the laziest blog owners on the planet, I will never, ever complain if your material is not up to your normal high standards. I'm just always glad to check in and see that you're still around.
I don't care what the eff you care to write about, it's your blog and you can write what you want to, write what you want to, write what you want to.
You will blog too, if it happens to you.
Posted by: Nancy | January 27, 2008 03:56 PMOK, I am not the Tim that wrote the post you reference. I would be the lowercase tim. Wheter or not you continue, it was and always will be fun to read your stuff. I hope you stay.
Posted by: tim | January 27, 2008 09:22 PMI'll follow you throughout the internets, sweet F-AF.
Posted by: Christine | January 29, 2008 01:22 PMNo real message here. Just a shameless plug for my own vanity site. Thanks.
Posted by: kevin | February 1, 2008 09:00 PMDearest FAF, whenever or wherever you write, I'll be there. Your blog is just that - YOURS. You write when you feel like it, whatever it is you feel the need to write about. We have been the lucky readers who have enjoyed your wit and humor (and the occassional heartfelt serious pieces).
Peace and good luck to you wherever you are headed.
Posted by: Gumby | February 2, 2008 12:12 PMDear FAF,
Thanks for all the smiles you've given me.
Couldn't be easy to share all you have. Some of it
funny...some gut wrenching.
Whenever you reappear....there will be a legion of friends waiting.
Best,
Alex
come back FA-F. you have left a whole in my, um, heart. come back. actually, you have left a hole in my threadbare hopes that there are literate and thoughtful people in this world. i have been counting on you too, too much. but you've always delivered. please don't stop writing. you're a gem. and, um, if you need some sort of personal favors to sweeten the deal, we can arrange something i'm sure.
Posted by: Kevin | February 5, 2008 10:01 PMSad, sad, sad. I hate when you do this.
Posted by: Sarah | February 13, 2008 10:23 AMi really miss reading your stuff. hope you start writing for all of us again. i'd like that.
Posted by: kevin in maryland | February 14, 2008 11:05 PMI am bereft. Well, I've been bereft before, but not over a missing blogger. These are special circumstances. What would entire our erstwhile correpondent to return? Cookies? Milk? Giftware? All I want is a sign that it's not all over. Amd it's not the blog I'm missing, it's the elegantly talented person who writes it. Only way I know you is through this blog, so if you're giving it up (which is understandable) please zip a line that you're fine and doing okay and have big plans. And make it funny.
Posted by: Kevin | February 20, 2008 11:06 PMSheesh... I finally stumble across an amusing, local blogger and he end up being overwhelmed by reality. Figures!
Seriously, though, you have many loyal viewers who will eagerly await any peep you may utter. We all have those days where we can't muster the energy or care to write in our blogs. Sometimes, a break is necessary. Sometimes, you return with a whole new mindset and eagerness to bitch, dish, and enlighten.
Whatever happens, it's been a fun ride so far...
Posted by: Ken | February 22, 2008 03:00 PMWOW. I can't believe I've just discovered your blog only to learn that's it's over? on hiatus? in recovery?
Good luck with the next project and I hope you re-invigorate this one.
Posted by: Marc Acito | February 26, 2008 12:57 PMBest comment ever:
"Poca,
I still wait for you.
Yours,
Dream Giver."
Just died laughing. You were also important enough to start a comment war between two readers, which says a lot...
As someone who knows a teeny bit about your upcoming project a-brewin', I have to say that I completely understand your inability to keep up with blogging & am completely jazzed at the revealing of your big news. It's going to be incredible - can't wait.
Update when you can & best of luck with... you know. Miss you.
Posted by: Kate | February 28, 2008 01:50 AMHow sad that this once great blog has become little more than a dumping ground for "listik-28081." I guess I, like all your followers, keep checking back here, hoping and waiting to see news about that new project that you teased us with so long ago... Are the "LISTIK" postings part of that new project? Are these cryptic links like the little clues we get on "LOST?" Will it ever become clear to us? Just don't forget us, F-AF -- we are all still out here, waiting, your minions in cyber land...
Posted by: Tim | March 10, 2008 09:29 AMJust trying to break the shame spiral of spam comments. Hope to see you back and you front too.
Posted by: Dale | March 24, 2008 09:25 AMDale, thanks. After skimming past a hundred or so of those spam comments I started to wonder where I could find some cheap Xanax...
The FAF was my Xanax!
Posted by: Chris | March 26, 2008 07:21 PM