It ain't easy being a single guy on the dating, er, job-hunting scene.
I'm employed, thankfully, but with no guarantees past February. And even though I've been assured numerous times how valuable I am, I have the growing feeling there just won't be any money when the end of my contract arrives.
So I'm on the prowl -- not for some useless man, but for gainful employment.
And after more than two months of ad-scouring, resume-sending and interview-going, I realize the two emotional roller coasters are one and the same.
The sense of depression/dread/futility/giving up is very familiar:
Why hasn't he/they noticed my profile/resume posted on Facebook/JournalismJobs.com?
Why didn't he/they call after I gave my number/mailed in my resume? I'm perfect for him/the job!
Why hasn't/haven't he/they called after our first date/interview? Oh my God, what did I say that soured him/them on me for a relationship/job?
Well, screw him/them. I didn't want to date him/work for them anyway.
I'm going to be single/unemployed forever.
I'm going to die alone/end up on the street.
It doesn't take a therapist to diagnose that it all comes down to one thing for me: fear of rejection. I need a man to want me. I need an employer to want me.
And right now, I feel very unwanted.
So if you're a company in Northeast Ohio looking for a journalist/writer/editor/marketer/communications specialist, send me an e-mail!
Because I suck as a boyfriend.
But I'm a freaking awesome employee.
Sorry to hear about your job woes. As someone working for the same employer since college (aren't universities great for that), I can't relate - however, as someone on the dating scene , your story hits home. Of course, like you know being single doesn't interfere with basic human needs ... food and shelter. Good luck ... with your writing style, I am sure that you will land an even better job.
Posted by: Richard | December 1, 2007 03:51 PMI'm looking for a writer, but its a volunteer position with a non-profit.. Yeah, that's like finding a boyfriend who's impotent.
Posted by: DJ | December 1, 2007 04:31 PMI definitly know what you mean. I am in the same boat. The dating used to be so easy but as you get older, things get a bit more complicated.
Posted by: Cincinnati NAMjA | December 2, 2007 04:28 PMYou would not suck as a boyfriend! I would be your boyfriend, if I was a boy. Just saying.
Posted by: Libby | December 3, 2007 01:53 AMWhat a great comparison, and I have been there too. Good luck in your job hunt!
Posted by: Bitters | December 4, 2007 12:28 AMI think you're cute. No idea if you're employable though. Good luck!
Posted by: No one asked us | December 4, 2007 05:30 PMMayhap you should leave Northeast Ohio. It's got a shitty economy, after all.
Posted by: JD | December 5, 2007 06:25 PMYou belong in a bigger market. NEO's creative market blows - get out before you get discouraged.
Posted by: MP | December 7, 2007 09:19 AMHahah nice. I'm like in the same situation, but I like girls. I'm totally cool with guys that like guys though, except the ones that try to rape me. I was raped many times in college after I smoked weed. Good luck with your job hunt and a boyfriend. Although I don't side with your views on non-caucasions, you do have some good points.
Posted by: Eric | December 9, 2007 03:29 PM